Communication is key in Shibari. Before starting a session, it's important to have a conversation with your partner about their expectations and desires. Talk about why you want to do Shibari, whether it's for artistic expression, emotional connection, pleasure, or any other reason. It's important to have a clear understanding of each other's goals and boundaries.
Trust is an essential component of Shibari. Whether you are the one tying or being tied, it's important to trust your partner completely. Make sure you have established a level of trust before engaging in Shibari.
Leave your ego at the door. Shibari is not about being an expert or trying to impress your partner. It's about connecting and achieving the best possible experience for both of you. If you make a mistake or your knot isn't perfect, don't let your ego stop you from trying again.
During the conversation with your partner, discussing specific plans for the session can reduce the likelihood of surprises. While surprises can be fun, there is always the risk that a surprise could negatively impact the experience. Talking about everything you plan to do and how both of you feel about each thing will reduce the likelihood of a negative surprise.
Consider your partner's feelings throughout the session. Take the time to understand their emotional state and check in with them regularly. If there are any actions or words that might trigger a strong emotional response, make sure to discuss them beforehand.
Remember that in Shibari, there is a power exchange between the person tying and the person being tied. It's important to communicate explicitly about this exchange and make sure that both partners are comfortable with their roles.
Overall, Shibari is about the emotional connection between partners. Take the time to understand each other's desires and boundaries, communicate openly, and trust each other completely.