Introducing Shibari to your partner

To make your life easier, I’ve recorded a video that you can give to your partner that will do the job of introducing Shibari for you and tell them that you are interested in exploring it together.   (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7VOHUTF8wyWE)

If your partner wants to learn more, watch the first few lessons of our free Shibari 101 course together. It will create a strong foundation, make sure you are both on the same page, and ensure you both feel like this is a shared activity and not just something you want to show your partner.

If you enjoy shibari and want to share it with your partner, it's important to approach the conversation with sensitivity and respect. Here are some tips for introducing shibari to your partner:

  1. Timing: Choose a time when you and your partner are both relaxed and have time to talk. Avoid bringing it up during or after an argument, or when either of you are stressed or distracted.
  2. Be Honest: Explain what shibari means to you and why you enjoy it. Be open and honest about your desires and interests, but also be willing to listen to your partner's thoughts and feelings.
  3. Education: If your partner is unfamiliar with shibari, invite them to enroll in our free Shibari 101 course. Make sure they understand that shibari is not necessarily about sex, but rather a form of artistic expression and connection.
  4. Listen to their perspective: After you've shared your thoughts and feelings about Shibari, listen to your partner's perspective. Be open and non-judgmental, and try to understand their point of view. Ask them questions to clarify their thoughts and feelings.
  5. Respect Their Decision: Your partner may not be interested in shibari, and that is okay. Respect their decision and don't pressure them into trying it. Keep in mind that everyone has different boundaries and preferences.


By following these tips, you can approach the conversation with your partner in a respectful and considerate manner. Remember, communication and consent are key in any form of sexual or intimate activity.